Too often I think we can get caught up in the notion that love is some kind of magical thing - maybe it's books and movies, I don't know. What I do know is that love is really a verb. It requires that you do something. It requires that if someone says they love you that they "act" not just "say" it. It's more than just a kiss. It's more about knowing the person you love and acting in their lives and passions.

What things do you do to show love to others? How have you made sure that relationshi...

On Saturday I had a coaching session with one of my business coaches. I believe in coaching (obviously if I am one, but true coaches are also coached by coaches!) I thought it would be a typical run through with homework at the end. At one point in the session she shared with me all the value I offer. It was strange and powerful. And actually I started to cry.

I think many of us as women “know” we provide value to others. We “know” we are appreciated for what we do every day. Inte...

I firmly believe that we “train people how to treat us”. Understanding our boundaries and how we want to be treated allows us to communicate it and expect it (yesterdays audio post as about expectations) of those in our lives.

I remember when I decided that I wanted to be around solution oriented, not problem focused people. Just saying I wanted it wasn’t enough. I had to teach those around me what that looked like. I had to be assertive enough to say no. I had to be able to create...

Remember "do nothing" weekends? As we grow older we end up spending our weekend cooking, cleaning, and taking care of others. The chore list just gets longer and longer it seems! Maybe you cannot have an entire weekend, but what about a day or even an afternoon? What would you do? Read a trashy novel? Watch a chick movie? Sleep?

Sometimes you need and deserve it. "Doing nothing" in particular can be a great way to rejuvenate.

Do you take "do nothing" time? How often? What do you do with that ti...

Many would say that are "I can". I believe they are ‘I am”. I am is present tense, which makes it real to your mind. That means your body will do it. Think about it - do you say to yourself: "I am so fat."? or do you say, "I am a learn mean sex machine!" Ok, you get the point!

So stop saying: "I am so tired.", when you wake up in the morning! Say: "I am feeling full of energy!"

Think about the "I am's" in your life. What ones is it time to change?

Last year I started a tradition that I think more of us could use in our lives. Celebrate more. What I really want is for you to stop saving your champagne for a "special" occasion! Why do we do that? Last year I started champagne Thursday to celebrate the "thrival" in my life! If you believe in thrival celebrate! If you are in survival mode I bet you are saving it!

(BTW- if you talk to someone who makes champagne they will tell you that unlike wine, it doesn't age, so what are we saving it fo...

The more we hold on, the less room we have for more. Letting go is one of the more freeing acts there is. Do you need to let go of a betrayal, or a grown child, maybe an old flame? Can you say to yourself, "I AM letting go and moving forward. I AM letting go because I deserve more." And can you feel it in your heart? At first it might feel scary - but remember sometimes that flutter is good fear, not bad. In this situation I will bet it's good not bad.

What do you need to let go of to make roo...

Negative emotion, especially fear stops us from being and receiving our fullest happiest potential. Recently I have met so many women that have fear. And I can see that it is holding them back from more success, more love, more life!

How can you do to accept that your fear is holding you back? How can you realize that you are safe and loved and fear no longer is part of the equation?

What would you do if you had no fear?

“Having an abundance mentality means you live your life knowing there’s more of everything than you will ever need!” James Candelaria, http://www.noobing4u.com

I often think of abundance as there is more than enough for everyone. James statement takes it to the next level. Imagine having more food than you will ever need, more fun, more friends, more love and happiness, more money – can you truly believe that there is more than you will ever need? Does your heart patter at the tho...

Learning to not take it personally is one of the hardest lessons in life to learn! When someone that barely knows you says something that seems mean it can fell so damaging. We all know intellectually that it’s not about you – it’s about them, but when it happens, taking that intellect into your heart is hard.

How do you not take it personally?

Find joy in the season. Sometimes we can get caught up in everything we have to do around the holiday. Finding joy in those things is so important! Today at Target I let a woman pay before me because she had one thing and I had MANY. Today I find the joy in making my sauce for lasagna for Christmas Eve (very Italian). Yesterday it was joy in wrapping presents and loading them up under the tree.


What will you find joy in today?

Stop taking yourself and the situation you are in so seriously!

Can you find laughter in a situation you normally would not?

“Let your heart be light.” This is actually a quote from a Christmas song. I love Christmas music, and I believe in the messages of the holiday season. “Let my heart be light” is not just for the holiday, we can apply it all year long. Sometimes with all we are asked to do, have to do, want to do and depending on how we are feeling we can harden our hearts. When we are stressed and overwhelmed with expectations of us we can harden our heart. Often it is not intentional. It only hurts ...

What do you do to challenge yourself to be the BEST you you can possibly be? Do you read? Take Classes? Meditate? Hang out with people you want to be like? It’s not about what others think is your best – it’s what you think!

What do you do to be your personal best?

Ask another woman to share something with you that you love. We all have things we love; romance novels or vampire novels, soups or cookies. Saying to another woman: “I just LOVE soups, do you have a favorite recipe I can try?”, makes a woman feel good.

What can you ask another woman for today?

Stop pretending to be “fine” when you are not “fine”! Why is it that “fine” and “nice” become something that women are “supposed to be? Who wrote that rule and why did we fall for it? If you are not fine, that is great. Sometimes you cannot be nice and do what needs to be done – that’s great too!

What can you do to stop living the lie of “fine”?

Get over the fact that everybody will not love you are even like you and put yourself out there anyway! Sometimes it seems like women can get so caught up in who they like or do not like and allow it to effect their own opportunities for success. Stop worrying about that! The world is made up of MANY different people – sometimes the one you do not like is the one you can most learn from!

Can you set it aside personally and go for it for your career and or personal success?

Two more powerful words to think about today: “I choose”. I believe we are in control and when we realize that we choose. I choose: my thoughts, my feelings, my actions – my power increases.

Too often as women we give up our power by letting others “choose” our emotions. Wow! Saying and thinking things like: “he makes me mad”, or “you frustrate me” are powerless – do not give anyone that much power! Imagine being able to own it: “I choose to be mad” or saying “Right...

Today's thought is brought to you by Mary MacNab! We have connected via the internet, have now met and support one another as women! Thanks Mary!

We are all living our true alignments with abundance when we live from the heart.

What I know for sure is that when we help someone else succeed, we help ourselves immeasurably.  We are saying to the universe and to ourselves, that we TRUST and we know that we are all one.  As we give to or help or lift another, in however small a way, we are helpin...

Have you ever noticed that when we get on the elevator we all face forward and don’t make eye contact and stop talking? So crazy! Why does that "rule" exist anyway? Have some fun on your next elevator ride – face everyone and talk to them! Last time I did this I had everyone laughing! It might just make your and someone’s day because you chose to break the rules!

On occasion be silly – break a rule!

What other "silly" things can we do?

Stop sticking your big old “BUT” in it!

But is such a dangerous word! When you use the word but you negate the prior statement. And if you really think about it, typically you do not intend to. “I love you honey but…” “You did a great job, but…” “Thank you for your help, but…”

When you stop sticking that but in there, you typically get a better response from your loved ones, team members and co-workers!

Try it, I think it will work!

You are either green and growing or ripe and rotten. Simple but true. Remember when your dad used to ask: “What did you learn today honey.” Ok, maybe he didn’t but you have heard it somewhere! Learning keeps us young and interesting! I find people who do not learn are boring! Learn something new today – stretch your comfort zone – you will be more adaptable, flexible and interesting!

What can you learn today?

We are meant to start over. If we were not, there would not be so many Mondays! Even a day would be much longer than 24 hours! See a new day, or a new week as a “do-over”. You get another chance to love more, laugh more, and live more!

What can you do today to start over? Where can you love, laugh and live more?