I firmly believe that we “train people how to treat us”. Understanding our boundaries and how we want to be treated allows us to communicate it and expect it (yesterdays audio post as about expectations) of those in our lives.

 

I remember when I decided that I wanted to be around solution oriented, not problem focused people. Just saying I wanted it wasn’t enough. I had to teach those around me what that looked like. I had to be assertive enough to say no. I had to be able to create some discomfort when I said: “I am walking away from the conversation right now.” And, I had to move on in some relationships because they would never be solution oriented people. It wasn’t easy, some pushed back, and most eventually changed how they work with me to provide solutions. Why? Because people who love you would rather have you in their lives than not. So they learn to adapt with you.


The path to changing how people treat you will not be easy, it will be worth it. Discover how it is you want to be treated and work  on those boundaries. Easiest to start early in relationships if you can!


How have you trained people to treat you? What techniques have you used to “retrain” them?